Surviving divorce during the holidays can be hard because it dredges up memories of happier times. The contrast of a joyful season with a failed marriage is sometimes hard to take.
The fact is, you’re not alone in this challenge, and you may be able to benefit from tips others share on how they overcame the holiday blues.
Dr. Karen Finn suggests a number of ways to survive the holidays after divorce. Here are a few:
Kids can have double holidays — one with Mom and one with Dad. Be flexible and celebrate Christmas on Christmas Eve instead of Christmas Day or vice versa. It’s freeing not to feel fixed on how the holidays “are supposed to be.”
Creating New Traditions
Instead of following old patterns, come up with new fun ways to celebrate the holidays.
Creating New Holiday Fun for Your Kids
Help your kids avoid past triggers too by creating new and fun holiday activities with friends and family. Reassure your children about the holidays being a fun time.
Take Care of Yourself
Make sure you eat well and get enough sleep and exercise. Take care of your health during the holidays so you can avoid experiencing the stress of the season.
Focus on Others
Believe it or not, there are many people who are more needy than you during the holidays. Volunteering at a soup kitchen or giving time at a nursing home is a good way to take attention off yourself and put your life into a better perspective.
Spend Time with Family and Friends
Turn to your family and friends for support with overcoming feelings of loneliness or depression.